‘I know exactly how you feel’….. ‘I know what you are going through’… ‘I can relate’… ‘I feel ya’… ‘I totally understand’… I gotta tell you I would rather you say, ‘I am here for you’ then to hear those knee jerk responses. And then again silence can be golden. You see, if you have not endured my pain do not mock or should I say minimize my pain or anyone else’s pain for that matter. If you have not experienced it you cannot truly know about it. ‘Ya Feel Me?!’ Even if you think you have walked in my shoes… here’s a thought, try running in my shoes…not my running shoes but rather try running in my 6 inch pumps and while you’re at it don’t just run a mile….run a frickin marathon in my 6 inch pumps. Even then you still can’t begin to know how I feel. I am about to step on some toes so put your steel toed shoes on. This is the one that probably gets most of you…When one race says to an opposite race ‘I know what you have been through’. Really, really, wow, Ya feel me!?
This goes deeper… You may be confident that you know your gurl or your homie therefore from the outside it may appear that they have it all together, wrapped tight, got it going on. The smiles they adorn daily only masked the disappointment, anger, bitterness inside that daily chisel at their self-esteem and confidence. Because inside that person is dealing with robbed opportunities time and time; having that one moment in time when they are racing with destiny slip right through their hands, losing their mother, losing their great niece, being discriminated against repeatedly by vary people who have the same color skin as theirs. Why? Because of intimidation, jealously and fear that you may be better than them, having to hearing the words ‘to have’ and ‘to hold’ so many times that instead of having they would rather be without and instead of holding they would rather just let go! Ya Feel me?!
If you do feel me it is only because you have been THROUGH PAIN, not necessarily mine but still pain and you have endured it! Endured the tears, the sleepless nights, and the heartaches, the self-defeating thoughts that bombard your ever second. I am here to tell you that weeping may endure for a night but JOY TRULY COMES IN THE MORNING! This life…this race is not given to the swiftest/fastest runner…(though I would have liked to have made the team at least one time!) but it is given to the one who endures to the end.
So the next time you want to say someone ‘I know how you feel’, ‘I understand’, or ‘I feel ya’… stop and let your actions speak louder than words. Be there…. it’s empathy and not sympathy. It may mean walking with them and not so much talking to them, it ‘s ears and tears and not your own cheers. Ya Feel Me?! You may have been through a lot but know that Champions get back up once they have fallen incalculable times. Keep in mind it takes more to be ACHAMPION!
AChampion NOW…AChampion FOREVER!
Let’s be real, what guides you will drive you and vice versa! Whether it’s a “who” or a “what” it inevitably guides AND drives your actions, decisions, choices and most importantly your future. Whatever your guide may be it is either guiding you to be the best you can be or driving you out of your mind and away from your goals.
Let me take a poll…shake your head if you have at one point been driven by your emotions, your past, a family member, your haters sipping on ‘Haterade irresponsibly’ …are you shaking your head yet? …what about that individual you are following on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter or Pinterest that you dare not “like” or comment on any of their postings… you just wanna see what they are doing. Little do you know those post your are 'peeping out' determine what your next action will be. If that individual is looking good, you wanna look better, (and if you are saying you don't...you are lying to yourself...I am just saying) if they seem happy with their boo, you can best believe that you are going to make sure you and your boos' relationship is tight and right. If they have purchased a new toy of some sort, you strategically begin to figure out what areas you can cut back on to keep up with 'The Kardashians'. (ouch… did I get cha?) …Okay how about these… do any of these guide you? Money, failure, God, your ex, your BFF, someone who has passed away, a teacher, your spouse or today’s technology. hmmm, did I forget anything or anyone? Of course…Duhhh, what about YOU! At the end of the day, you are the one who determines if you stay or go; love or hate, get or give…No one but You! I was taught at a wise age…'If it is to be….it is up to me!' (Thanks Coach G aka Ernest Gregoire)
All those I mentioned above are all fine and good as long as it or they guide and drive you to be better than who you were yesterday. Hear me out when I say, if it or they no longer guide you…just know that it or they hide and drive you. Hides your talents, your gifts and the very purpose you were created for! In doing so it drives you further and further away from your goals, dreams and desires. Listen, don’t get me wrong, if your 'haters' drive you to love more, give more and live more….then be driven! Choose your guides wisely. Make your journey with your guide one that you can look back on and say ...Well done and not... Welllll….Here’s AChampion’s Thought…. "If by chance on your journey a DOOR closes....put your head down only to pray.... then look up, for Your Lord is about to open up the WINDOWS of heaven and pour you out a blessing you don't have room to receive! You may be asking yourself “how does she know?” Well, I have been there, done that, however I am “Not Done Yet!”
AChampion Now…AChampion Forever
Note as most of you know I am in the process of writing my book...Your input will assist me! You never know I may just ask you to be apart of the book!
Let me hear from you....Comment and let me know Who or what guides you and why?